Families in Tune

The Four Pillars to Embrace Complexity at Home

This workshop is designed for therapists, who work with families. It is based on four fundamental questions, bringing actions and strategies to create a safe container for activities with children at home.

We explore essentials for individual development, relationship building, and learning, in therapeutic sessions as well as at home, whether in play, study, creation, in moments of boredom or fight, etc.

  • How can I create a safe container for the whole family to grow as individuals and develop healthy relationships? (Smart Structure – “We in the now”)
  • How can I attune to children on the emotional-energetic level and create meaningful interaction? (Facilitating Cycles)
  • What are the key ingredients to curate meaningful activities as you design a smart structure? (Attuned Activities)
  • How does my behavior affect my relationship with the child? (Empowered Presence)

These questions have been the essence of building a genuine field of contact between children and adults in my work over the last 30 years, and they carry precious information to deepen relationships at home.

The importance of these 4 bases of support often goes unnoticed in the eyes of caregivers and leaders who work with the development and well-being of children, but these pillars bring the description of the processes during the activity (Smart Structure – “We in the Now”), the maps of driving emotional states (Facilitating Cycles), the observation of the self as a facilitator (Empowered Presence) and the creation and curation of activity (Attuned Activities) with the purpose of generating meaning and balance for the child.

With time passing by, and the ongoing technological evolution, changes in habits and socioeconomic demands caused personal pressures in the daily life of families, creating a gradual erosion of these bases, causing parents to outsource the immediate contact with their children, and consequently, generating a decrease in the quality of presence between parents and children.

Today, with the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, these problems have surfaced in the form of daily conflicts, overwhelm, excessive tasks, and lack of time and creativity, in addition to the need to be present with our own fears and work obligations.

We want to show in this workshop that the “here and now with children” is precious and currently often is worn out by an excess of tasks, concepts, and protocols emptied of soul. We sometimes find ourselves surrounded by rules and limits based on hardened rules and sanitized habits that, for their nature, discourage children from being themselves.

Many protocols offered are insufficient to deal with the intensity and complexity that this crisis brings us. We need to nurture the parents’ own ability to develop strategies and solve problems in the family system. Because even though the problems often show through the children’s behavior, the children are often not the cause.

The current moment pushes us to a “here and now without the child”, that is, “together-but-separate”, living in the same environment, under the same roof, with more hours together, repeating the same routine, however distant and refractory the contact in those moments of conflict and doubts.

How can an hour of intentional presence change the home environment? This is what I call the “we-in-now”, the presence with intention, our ability to deal with unforeseen events, and constant emotional changes.

I believe…

  • that informed and empowered caregivers can inspire children to continuously develop and overcome personal difficulties, which they might encounter throughout life.
  • that educated, responsible adults can provide a net of support and appreciation for the child’s creative potential to unfold.
  • that by embracing diversity and inclusion the world around children feels like a welcome home for their vulnerability, sensitivity, and freshness. An approach free of judgment is an open door for them. They feel seen and heard, which opens space for their unique expression.
  • that children are not the ones to be blamed. They are part of larger systems. Their problems are our problems and vice-versa. In addressing the system and not only the symptom we might be able to see the upcoming challenges with new eyes, and children can grow with more autonomy and self-confidence.
  • that children are in essence inspiring. Their freshness, simplicity, curiosity and openness are the main ingredients for societies to tackle the challenges and high complexity levels we are facing these days.
  • that all children can thrive in a healthy environment. With the right amount of challenge and support, we can help them to grow stronger, connect to their motivation and find meaning in life.
  • that children care about contributing to the world they live in. To ensure quality, we honor children’s inner experiences with the deepest respect. Their self-esteem and empathic capacities to connect with the needs and challenges around them, are connected with what they are allowed and encouraged to bring out and manifest.

What we will cover:

Safe container and limits development

  • How to create a safe container, that is attentive to children’s needs
  • The importance of cycles of behavior in the analysis of complaints brought by parents
  • How open cycles become an invisible threat to parents, children, professionals and the pace in our homes

Emotional-energetic facilitation

  • How to facilitate an activity based on the organic processes of cycles of behavior
  • How to develop a matching presence at each stage of an activity process
  • How to work the children’s limits and at the same time develop children’s resilience for future activities

Work with a child’s conflict when both parent and child are engaged in activities

  • How to work with conflicts anchored in the “we-in-now” from the constant changes in the emotional states of children and parents

  • How to identify children’s defense and self-regulation mechanisms

  • How to make route adjustments during the process based on the analysis of the four pillars

Processing stress and self-regulation

  • How do children process information about stress and conflict and what is the role of attuned activities in the child’s self-regulation?   

  • How can curating activities based on stress processing channels bring sustainable harmony to the home?

  • How to tune the listening to the particular languages ​​of each channel

Adult mindset shifts for better connection and family interactions

  • The importance of the 4 gravitational shifts in the family field for the child’s aim to achieve more autonomy in activities and personal processes 

  • How to work with the analysis of practical cases through the “diamond” analysis system

Check back soon for upcoming sessions to be announced. 

Who is this for?

This workshop is designed for therapists, counselors,, educators, health professionals, and social entrepreneurs who want to work with somatic practices for children and their caretakers. It is for people who:

  • Believe they can make a difference in the life of children, adding new tools to their own talents and professional background;
  • Believe group work with collaborative spirit can generate positive and comprehensive impacts on children;
  • Want to incorporate the secrets of corporal and somatic experiences into their own techniques and expertise;
  • Are interested and willing to innovate and develop projects for children, parents and related professionals;
  • Who are interested in personal development and want to explore new frames of how to see children and work with them and their families.